Potty Time With Bear (Disney's Bear in the Big Blue House):  Although the show is no longer
being produced, Bear is one of my favorite Disney shows for preschoolers.  Bear is an incredibly
sweet character who helps children understand different situations by incorporating songs and friends
in each episode.  The Potty Time DVD is no different, and it helps children understand that everyone
needs to use the potty, even while they are having fun.  It also explains that accidents happen to
everyone and that they are no big deal.  If Bear is one of your child's favorite characters, this is
definitely the DVD for you.  If they have not been hit with the Bear craze yet, this might be a good
opportunity to introduce them to the series.
***Warning:  This show is appropriate for children ages 2 and up.  In order to understand the lessons,
your child needs to be able to understand and process dialog.  This might be too difficult to follow for
younger children.  

The Potty Movie, Barron's Home DVD: Available for girls and for boys, this movie is follows the
picture storybook.  Great song, live scenes with toddlers, demonstrates going to the potty, wiping and
hand washing.  

Go Potty Go, Mazzarella Media:  Shorter DVD (20 minutes), uses animated characters and songs to
spur interest in potty training.  Would not recommend it as an educational video, but maybe as an
add-on after the basic skills have been learned to keep your child interested in potty-training.
The Diaper Free Baby by Christine Gross-Loh: Great book about Elimination Communication (infant
toilet training).  This book has valuable information regarding your baby and the elimination process,
even if you are completely against toilet training your newborn/infant. This book divides the EC
process by age, gives you helpful tips if you want to follow this method full-time, part-time or
occasionally, and includes advise from real parents using the EC method.  

Stress-Free Potty Training by Sara Au & Peter Stavinoha, Ph.D.:  This book is based on the
assumption that there are 5 basic personality types and gives you potty training advised according to
each type.  The personality types are goal-oriented, sensory oriented, internalizing, impulsive and
strong-willed.  There is a chapter dedicated to universal strategies, and though your child may only fall
into 1 or 2 of the personality types, I still recommend reading the entire book, as you may find helpful
tips in the other categories.  Good information, easy to read and has the added bonus of having dialogs
for different scenarios that you can follow for communicating with your child.

Potty Training 1-2-3 by Gary and Ann Marie Ezzo:  Shorter book filled with good information to get
your started.  Good book to introduce you to the joys of potty training!
For most people, being a parent will be one of the most rewarding experiences of their lives.  It
connects them to another human being for all eternity, it allows them to leave a piece of
themselves behind once they're gone, and it provides them with the opportunity to help shape the
future of mankind.  No matter what your hopes and dreams are for your child, the lessons you
teach them while they are young will stay with them always.

One of the tasks you probably didn't dream about while planning your family was potty training.  
Though admittedly not the most glamorous aspect of parenting, potty training is an essential part
of growing up.  Through this process, children will learn from you good hygiene, modesty,
self-reliance and much more.  Each lesson your child learns, no matter how small or insignificant
it may seem, will lay down the foundation for the person he or she is to become.

So, without further ado, we present to you the Healthy Bottoms Potty Training Tips:

Please note that while we do not have a potty training PhD, we have researched this topic thoroughly.
Drawing upon our own experiences, the countless number of books and videos on the subject, and the
wisdom of mommy and daddy potty training veterans, we have compiled a list of helpful tips and facts that
will hopefully help to guide you through this process.  As with any other stages in your child's life, you
should discuss potty training with your pediatrician prior to commencing.  Your child's doctor is wealth of
information and will be able to help you with any negative situations that might arise, such as
withholding, constipation, etc.
   
Prior to the advent of disposable diapers, many parents "potty trained" their children almost as soon as
they came out of the womb.  While opponents of this method say that EC has more to do with
training the parent to catch their child's waste than actually potty training the child, there are a few
principles of EC that are worth studying.    

EC is about communicating with your child and being attuned to their needs.  Just as you learn to
distinguish your child's hunger cry from his sleepy cry, you can learn to read the signs your child
gives you when they need to eliminate.  Whether based on physical signs, on a schedule, or both, if
you pay close attention to your child (which you do anyway), you will be able to "catch" their waste
and help start the potty training process.  After all, if you know your child has to eliminate, why
would you make them go in their pants?  

The second part of the communication comes from you.  As you are placing your child over the
container or helping them sit on the potty, making a sound, such as "pssst" will help your child form a
link between going to the bathroom and your cue.  This will help when your child is older, as they will
associate the cue with having to use the potty and will be more likely to go when you sit them down
and cue them.  

Advocates of this method suggest you start "catching" your child's eliminations as early as possible,
just one or two days after birth.  To do this with a newborn you have to not only be able to undress
them in time, but you will also need to hold them in an "sitting" position over the container, since they
cannot obviously hold their own heads up, not to mention sit by themselves.  With the EC method,
you can try to catch all or some of the baby's waste.  If this sounds like something you are interested
in trying, I recommend you read
The Diaper Free Baby by Christine Gross-Loh first.  It does a good
job explaining what EC is, is easy to read, breaks down the process by age and allows you to try the
method either full-time, part-time or occasionally.  While some of the content might make you roll
your eyes, it does get the facts on paper and guides you through the process.

While EC can be started at any age, it is important that neither you nor your baby feel any pressure to
"perform".  The concept of EC is to build a bond with your baby and be attuned to their needs, not to
be the first mom in the play group to have toilet trained their child.
The one-day potty training method involves a full day of offering treats to your toddler as rewards for
learning potty-training skills.  If you have tried everything else and nothing seems to work, this might
be a good method to try.  The book
Potty Training 1-2-3 by Gary and Anne Marie Ezzo has good
advise on weaning your child off the rewards.

The one-day potty training book we recommend is
Potty Train Your Child in Just One Day by Teri
Cane.  This book recommends throwing a full-day potty training party for your child.  The day is
broken down into 2 sections: the morning portion of the party is dedicated to teaching a doll how to
use the potty, the afternoon part involves getting rid of diapers and having your toddler use the potty
in the same way the doll used it.  Tries and successes are both rewarded with mini-treats, and the day
is full of potty-themed games, videos and stories.  The book provides you with everything you need to
throw your own potty party, including shopping lists, games, treat recipes, theme ideas, etc.  The
lessons should be reinforced on a daily basis, but the goal is to have all the basics learned in one day.
One size never fits all.  There are some tactics that may work for some children and have the
complete opposite effect on others.  The advise we offer should be combined with your own research
(you will find book recommendations below), advise from your pediatrician, and your own knowledge
of the character and temperament of your child.

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EC - Even if you are not a fan of EC, introducing the potty before your child is able to form
opinions about things will help you in the long run.  One of the biggest potty training battles is getting
your toddler to actually sit on the potty.  Your child may be reluctant to do this for several reasons,
the major one being familiarity with their diaper as the only acceptable receptacle for elimination.  If
your child has been sitting on a potty from infancy, they will be less likely to resist the potty training
process.  As soon as your baby has learned to sit, let them sit on the potty...the sooner you introduce
the potty, the better.  Usually a baby will need to eliminate as soon as they wake up or shortly after
feeding.  Once you figure out a convenient time for you (for working parents, early mornings are
pretty crazy, so sitting your child on the potty before bed or after dinner might work best for you)
when you know your child is most likely to eliminate, incorporate potty time into your routine.  If you
cue your baby by using either words or sounds (pssst, modified grunting, etc.), your child will begin
to associate your cue with his or her need to go, and you will become more successful once you are
ready to potty train.  Incorporating a potty while your baby is still an infant will help make the
transition smoother as it will become a familiar part of your child's routine.  Bowel movements are
more regular and easier to "catch", which makes them a good goal to strive for.      

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Cloth Diapers - Children who use cloth diapers toilet train up to a year earlier than their
disposable-wearing counterparts.  The reason behind this advantage is that children are able to feel
when they've wet themselves and are therefore more aware of their bodily functions.  Once your child
is able to grasp the concept of cause and effect (if I pee in my diaper, then I will feel wet and
uncomfortable), it will make it easier for you to train them (if you don't want to be uncomfortable and
wet, you can use the potty).

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Patience - When your baby was learning to feed, you did not punish him for not being able to latch
on.  When she started to crawl, you did not yell at her for not learning fast enough.  When he took his
first steps, you did not get angry at him when he fell down.  DO NOT punish your child for having
accidents.  Your toddler wants to please you.  The terrible two's are not a power struggle, they are a
learning process.  Your little baby is becoming his or her own person, and in order to do that they
must figure out what they can and cannot do, what they can and cannot control.  Accidents will
happen, if you are not ready for them, postpone potty training until you are.  Do not punish your child
for accidents, since they are a normal part of the learning process.    

*
Props - Books, videos, songs, dolls...use anything you can get a hold of.  Children at this age need
stimulation, the more varied the better.  If you simply introduce a potty chair and rely on your verbal
explanation to teach your child how to use it, you will more than likely not get very far.  Dolls are an
integral part of the potty training process.  When you begin potty training, use the doll as the student
and have your child help you "teach" the doll how to use the potty.  This will not only give your child
a sense of control over the process, but will also give you a chance to reprimand the doll for having
accidents, instead of your child.  You can use any doll or teddy bear, though having a doll that wets
will make accidents easier to see and correct.  If you do decide to purchase a self-wetting doll, make
sure you buy one that is anatomically correct (there are several of them on the market).  If you have a
boy and you or your spouse do not want to use a doll, a teddy bear works just fine.

*
Potty Chairs - There are many different kinds of potty chairs out there, make sure you pick one
that is safe, sturdy and will work for your child.  If you have started talking to your child about potty
training and they are interested in the idea, let them pick out their own potty chair (you can narrow the
options to 2 or 3 chairs that you have pre-approved).  It is important for your child to be in control of
the potty training process, since it is their body that they need to control.  By involving your child in as
many decisions as possible, you are respecting and acknowledging their right to control their body.  If
you live in a large house or have 2 or more stories, consider purchasing 2 or 3 potty chairs.  When
your child has to go you cannot expect them to hold on while you run from one end of the house to
the other, especially when you are just starting out.  

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Wiping - One of the reasons you can experience resistance in potty training may be due to your
child's hesitance towards wiping herself.  She may be grossed out if some stool or urine gets on her
fingers.  Addressing your child's concerns will work best in this area.  Explain that, while she may get
some stool on her hands during wiping, she will be able to clean it off and wash her hands thoroughly
afterwards.  Flushable wet-wipes are easier for your child to use, will hold up better than toilet paper,
and will allow her to clean herself more effectively.

*
Flushing - If you are using our diaper service, you will need to flush the contents of the diapers as
soon as your baby has solid stools (this should be done with disposable diapers as well, to prevent
bacteria from seeping into our groundwater, streams and rivers).  Once your child is able to walk,
allow them to become part of the flushing process.  Some toddlers view their poop as a part of
themselves and are afraid of losing that part by flushing the poop down the toilet.  Other fears
involving flushing include fear of the noise, fear of being sucked into the toilet and fear of the
unknown (they cannot see what happens to their poop once it goes down the toilet).  Involving your
child early in the flushing process will help remove or at least reduce some of these fears.  Allowing
your child to express their fears and calmly answering any questions they may have will make potty
training go a lot smoother.  

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Modeling - Children learn by observing and copying the behavior of those around them.  Like it or
not, your child will need to watch you use the bathroom in order to learn how to use the potty
themselves.  If your child is like most, he will be following you around from the moment they become
mobile, so modeling may already be underway.  Role modeling will be more effective if it is done with
the same-gender parent, though it may not be possible in all cases.  If your child has not followed you
into the bathroom yet and you are completely uncomfortable with the idea of using the bathroom in
front of him or her, you can still show your child the basic idea of using the bathroom with your
clothes on.
Before you begin to consider potty training your child, there are certain skills that he or she must
master in order to succeed.  Here are a few signs that will help you determine if your child is ready to
say goodbye to diapers:
* Walk to and from the bathroom
* Remove clothes with minimal assistance (they should, at the very least, be able to get to and             
  remove underwear)
* Recognize when they've wet or soiled their diaper (stopping play to have a BM, asking for a             
  clean diaper, etc)
* Verbal communication (know the words for the parts of their body and for urine and stool -             
  whatever you decide to call them)
* Ability to wash hands
* Ability to follow simple instructions

In addition to these signs, there are several events that may occur in your family's life during which
you should avoid potty training.  These include:
* Moving into a new home
* Birth of a sibling
* Recent family loss (death of family member, close relative, pet)
* Recent divorce, separation, removal of a parent for an extended period of time
* Recent change of child care provider/preschool

If any of these events happen in the middle of potty training, talk to your child and give him the option
of continuing the training or putting it on hold.  If you decide to continue with the training, consider
what your stress level will be and how that will affect your patience.
Elimination Communication (EC)
One-Day Potty Training
Readiness Signs
Healthy Bottoms Advise
Adult Books:
What to Expect When You Use the Potty by Heidi Murkoff:  Yes, this is written by the co-author
of
What to Expect When You're Expecting, and yes, it is just as good.  The book is part of a What To
Expect Kids series, which include books about bringing home a new baby, going to the doctor, going
to preschool, etc.  All books have the same central character, Angus the Answer Dog, a friendly
looking dog that narrates the stories and answers questions regarding a particular subject.  They are a
bit long, so if your child does not do well with sitting still for a long story, feel free to break it up into
several sessions.  Each page answers a different question, so it will be easy to start-and-stop.  
Excellent illustrations, good introductory book to potty training.

My Big Girl/Boy Potty by Joanna Cole:  Great book, beautiful illustrations, hits all major points (how
to use the potty, hand washing, accidents, etc), easy to read.


The following books do not explain the process of going to the potty, but they are good to read maybe
during potty time.  They help toddlers see that everyone, from duckies to princes go to the potty.

No More Diapers for Ducky by Bernette Ford and Sam Williams.

The Prince and the Potty by Wendy Cheyette Lewison.

Max's Potty by Harriet Ziefert.
Children's Books:
***All books and videos that we recommend can be found in the Mecklenburg County
Public Library system.  You may, however, wish to purchase at least some the children's
books to keep by the potty so that your big boy/big girl can have something to do!***
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